We blew it. Last night during our new business session one of our members made direct reference to another member’s motives. The offended member rose (and should have risen on a point of personal privilege) to state he was offended. And the debate continued unaffected.
Here’s what should happen. When one member makes reference to another’s motives the chair (or any member) should immediately rise and call the member to order as the reference is clearly out of order.
I rolled over in bed this morning and mentioned this point to our chair — It’s okay. We’re married. 
Had our chair been on top of the conversation it would have been her job to call for order but often chairs have a lot on their mind and may miss a breech of parliamentary procedure. If they do, then it’s up to the rest of us to help the offending member understand the impropriety of their statements.
We learn by doing and I’ve been guilty of this offence myself.
